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March 27th, 2009 at 6:47 pm
I’m getting married, and my fiance forgot to save enough money to buy the wedding bands. What would you do?
I didn't realize how much was involved in planning the wedding, and I had spent so much time getting all the clothes picked out, the venue booked, food, invitations, cakes, flowers, musicians, photographers etc., that I forgot to remind the groom to save up for the rings. What should I do? He doesn't have enough money to buy or finance them. What is appropriate for me to do? Have my parents pay for the rings? Tell the groom's parents to buy them? Tell the groom he needs to figure something out? The rings have to be ordered in advance, so we can make sure they come in time. Imagine if you had a huge wedding planned and there were no rings! Help! Any advice?
March 27th, 2009 at 11:49 pm
You are asking about everyone else paying for them (the groom, your parents, his parents) but you are forgetting one other person, yourself. If you both don't have enough for the rings you can do a couple of things, buy cheaper rings (my husband and I spent about $250 on both of ours) or you can get yourself an extra job to help pay for the extra expenses you didn't anticipate.
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March 27th, 2009 at 11:51 pm
guess you'll have to cancel the order and get something cheaper.
You can't ask someone else to pay for your fiance's irresponsibility.
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March 27th, 2009 at 11:53 pm
Ask your parents of his and emphasize that you will pay for it but when you have the money.
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March 27th, 2009 at 11:55 pm
Tell the groom that he has to come up with the money. It is not your area to worry about. He will find a way so dont worry. PS you shouldnt have had to tell him in the first place. You did everything else. Weddings are stressful… so just relax and everything will work out fine.
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March 27th, 2009 at 11:57 pm
Why not talk to your mom and dad and ask them to help you out with getting your fiancee a ring, explain to them that you feel really silly , and you completly forgot about the most obvious thing, I bet they would consider loaning you the money until you can repay them
Have your fiancee say the same thing to his parents
This way your family is helping YOU out getting him a ring, and his family is helping HIM out by getting you a ring
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March 27th, 2009 at 11:59 pm
buy some cheap rings for now and buy the real ones later
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:01 am
Do you have money to cover them? After you're married both of your money goes in the same pot. If you don't have the money, I suppose you could ask your parents for a loan.
An easy solution would be to go to Walmart and buy simple "starter" bands and buy something more elaborate later on if wanted something fancy. A plain gold band is probably less than $100.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:03 am
If you can't come up with $200 to $300 for a pair of wedding rings amongst the planning, food, clothing, photographers, and everything else, are you going to end up in a total financial collapse the day after the wedding?
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:05 am
Instead of getting real rings, get them tattooed to your ring fingers. At least you won't lose them that way, and it's cheaper. If you're worried about having the tats removed in case of divorce don't marry him if you have that doubt in your mind.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:07 am
it depends on how much time you have and how much you are short. you could deliver pizzas for a month and make some cash that way. or go to a pawn shop and get some rings at a high discount. lastly just get some plain inexpensive rings for the ceremony, no one will notice, they are just a symbol anyway. then later get the rings that you really wanted
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:09 am
If there is no way to afford them, you could ask your parents or his to loan you the money and then you can pay them back as soon as you can, but I would never demand for parents to pay for anything.
You can always go to WalMart or something and buy cheap rings you could use for the ceremony and then when you can afford it, buy the wedding bands you want.
That's what I would do.
Congrats on your wedding!
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:11 am
Forget the rings. If this guy is this inattentive and irresponsible I would be rethinking the wedding.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:13 am
You really need to step up and purchase the rings yourselves. You can't expect your parents or his to pay for "YOUR" rings. It's not their responsibility. You should really think about getting less expensive rings or get a part time job to cover the expense.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:15 am
Well, technically your wedding band is his only responsibility. You are supposed to buy his wedding band. For now, purchase inexpensive bands until you can afford real ones, or use stand in rings for the ceremony. It's just a symbol, you'll still be married.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:17 am
why on earth should either of the parents pay for the rings? it isn't their responsibility. i have to ask why the groom would 'forget' something as important as the rings? doesn't make sense…… and i have to say i would be wondering if he really wanted to get married.
anyway the cost of a couple of gold bands shouldn't break you - you either buy them yourself or you delay the wedding - laying the expense off on the parents is not an option.
good luck.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:19 am
Have you considered going to a pawn shop? You could probably get some for a reasonable cost there. Also, perhaps you could borrow family members' rings just for the ceremony and call it part of your something borrowed. I would ask around to see if you can find someone with your ring size. Just make sure you give them back after the ceremony and before the reception so you don't leave a burden on the guests to hunt you down for their rings.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:21 am
ask your parents for them as an early wedding present
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:23 am
I bought my husbands wedding band. and he bought my wedding band we went to Kay's his ring was just over $500 i got it for $195 on Clarence. you can put them on layaway. you are suppose to buy his wedding band and he buys yours
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:25 am
go to your local department store , zales, or mall store, and get some cheap ones until you can get the real ones, maybe for your 1st anniversary.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:27 am
I agree with the other posters, asking either of your parents to foot this expense should not be an option at all. Are you two paying for the rest of your wedding by yourselves? Maybe you need less expensive rings, it sounds like your wedding is pretty costly already, if you can't afford the rings on top of this they are too expensive. Don't forget that your money merges when you get married so if you don't collectively have enough money to buy rings on your own you may need to consider cutting back on a few other things too to afford home and bill payments.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:29 am
Get affordable silver stand-ins until you can afford your permanent rings. If you can't afford them now then you have your answer. Buy what you can afford.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:31 am
Forgot??!!
You didn't remind him and he "forgot"? Are you marrying an adult or a six year old?
His problem. Let him figure it out.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:33 am
How about just skipping the rings in the ceremony? (Gasp!) The ring is just a symbol. Many couples choose not to exchange rings during the ceremony and many don't wear wedding rings at all. Since you can't afford them right now, consider skipping them for now. Just buy them when you can afford them and exchange them at that point. Not exchanging them at the wedding will not make your marriage any less valid.
My husband and I didn't exchange rings at our wedding and we weren't planning on wearing rings. Then we decided to get them and exchanged them as birthday gifts 7 months after we got married. Our marriage wasn't any better or worse as a result of having wedding bands. It's about the commitment, not the ring.
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March 28th, 2009 at 12:35 am
You buy him a band, and he buys you one. Whatever fits the budget. There are nice $40 ones, real gold!
http://www.kmart.com/shc/s/search_10151_10104?vName=Jewelry&keyword=wedding+band&viewItems=21&pageNum=1&sortOption=PRICE_LOW_TO_HIGH
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